Fears are irrational beliefs that we have about ourselves, our actions, objects, other people or events. These fears only appear to be real within the recesses of our minds; however they have absolutely no basis in reality. Those may be fear of failure, fear of success, fear of change or fear of public speaking etc. Fear is nothing more than the uncertainty we feel about the outcomes, circumstances and about the unpredictability of future events. We don’t want to stand up on a stage and speak in front of people because we are uncertain of people’s reactions and judgments.
Your fears can create a compelling pull of resistance that pulls you away from opportunities breeding the habit of insecurity which is basically a lack of confidence that one feels about one’s abilities, slow you down and lead to many other destructive emotional projections. Fears breed destructive behaviors that disrupt you from moving forward with your life in proactive ways. Destructive behaviors can be in the form of habits of laziness, procrastination, doubting yourself or purposefully neglecting your responsibilities. Fears hold you back from developing a significant set of skills that will help you to attain your most required goals and objectives. Fears suppress emotional and intellectual growth and effective decision making. If your fears are overwhelming your decisions and actions, then may indeed be pulling yourself away from prime opportunities that will allow you to develop new talents and abilities.
Understand through Validation
Question your fears which will open new possibilities and understandings that will further help you to overcome your fears in a rational and proactive way. Validate the existence of your fears (even though they are just irrational projections of your mind) in a way that will throw a little doubt and uncertainty your way. Ask yourselves if this fear justifiable and if it does actually make any sense.
Learn to understand your fears at a deeper and more reflective way, which can be accomplished by moving back through time in order to gain a realization of how your fears came into existence. Such exercise provides you with a psychological strength and certainty that there is in fact a reason and meaning behind every behavior, habit, decision and action that you make within your life. Certainty will likewise provide you with a sense of confidence that will further strengthen you resolve and move you forward in the right direction to help you overcome the blockades and setbacks in your life.
Identify the potential losses that will come to outward if you continue to hold onto this fear, while on the other hand acknowledge the potential gains that you are likely to achieve if you successfully overcome this fear in a rational and proactive way. Effectively determine how you will deal with your fear from an emotional, physical, and psychological perspective.
Read biographies of people who overcame fears successfully to gain confidence and assurance that you too can also successfully move through your fears. Watch some inspirational movies about those people, who have overcome great and seemingly challenging obstacles. This will certainly provide you with the confidence you need to move beyond your fears.
See the Future
Fears can overcome by people by envisioning the future possibilities. It can be done like this.
- Transform their perspective about their potential, abilities, skills and strengths in ways that will help them to soar to new heights of achievement.
- Transform their perspective about other people and circumstances in order to help them identify the seeds of opportunity hidden within the problems and fears that are currently confronting their reality.
Visualize yourself overcoming your fears successfully again and again within your imagination. While doing this, make sure to utilize all your senses in order to intensely make the experience feel as real as possible.
Gain some unique insights from other people’s experiences, strategies, techniques and tactics that they used to overcome their own personal fears. Helping another person to overcome their fears can lead to potentially life transforming insights that will prepare you for your own personal life challenges.
Instead of building upon the fear, twist your belief and faith in the opposite direction and cultivate confidence in yourself and your abilities with which you can successfully overcome this fear in a rational and proactive way.
Relax to face your fears
Face and confront your fears head-on. In this process some manageable fears can actually work very well. Before taking this step, first get your fears to a manageable state.
Learn to teach yourself how to relax, how to find calmness and peace within your body and mind. Learn to shut-off and direct your mind and body inwards when you sense a fear is about to overpower you.
Your thoughts trigger your irrational fears of behavior. You cannot experience the emotion of fear without first having a thought about it.
Simply take time to shut down your thoughts or redirect them away from your fears and redirect to the aspects of your life that bring great pleasure, confidence and certainty.
Take the time to laugh at your pointless and irrational fears that have absolutely no basis in reality. Laughter is a great form of therapy that could very well provide the power you need to help you overcome your fears.
Simple and instant Tips
Here are some tips you can rely on. Keep them in mind to make them indirectly work on improving you, out of your fears.
Courage can introduce you to a world of unimaginable possibilities and unexpected learning that strengthen to move you into action despite any contradictory feelings that might weaken within your heart. Courage is the key that will open many doors of opportunity, while moving you through seemingly impossible obstacles that are standing in your way.
Accept full responsibility for your behaviors, decisions and actions no matter what results or outcomes you experience in reality.
With faith comes belief, and with belief comes a sense of confidence that helps you to move beyond the obstacles that are standing in your way.
With patience comes rational thinking, which encourages better and more proactive decision-making, to break through the fear ridden obstacles standing in your way.
Believe in you
Develop an unwavering belief in your own ability by attaining a positive outcome. Believe that you will achieve your goals and objectives despite your irrational fears.
Find out the opportunities
Find hidden opportunities around every corner. Within every obstacle, there lies a seed of hidden opportunity that you can take advantage of, to move forward along your journey towards attaining your goals and objectives.
Help your mind to think better!!
Fear can also an Unhelpful thought that springs from the unhelpful emotions we already have in mind such as anxiety, stress, depression etc. Once we are able to identify our unhelpful thoughts, we can then learn to tackle them and so, challenge them.
So, learn to face your fears with the techniques discussed above and believe in yourself that you are what you think you are.
Seeking an expert’s help in overcoming your fears in mind and helping your mind to think better, is a much better idea rather than ignoring or leaving your problems to luck. If you are unable to succeed in controlling your fears, in spite of trying hard, speak to a professional counselor who can help you get out of the burrow. Go ahead and face the life. Book an appointment today.