Setbacks are inevitable in life. We should be prepared to set them aside and use them to our advantage. Highly successful people, who in fact, experience the most setbacks, have acquired this knack of setting aside setbacks in order to achieve their success. Unfortunately, nobody talks much about their setbacks and struggles. We are taught to admire successful for their successes and we are left to compare ourselves with their achievements. This in turn makes it hard for us to validate our mistakes and problems and we start questioning our abilities.

This pattern of thinking has made the world be afraid of setbacks. Even from a young age we have been taught that being wrong and making mistakes are bad. Our mind gets conditioned to use these memories to provoke negative emotions like fear and anxiety which might make us repeat the same errors today. Award winning author J.K. Rowling advocates that we should learn to embrace setbacks and failures. She states that “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all–in which case, you fail by default.” If we live so carefully to avoid failure, we’re also never teaching ourselves how to manage it effectively when we experience it.

The question now is “Can we train ourselves to set aside the setbacks and use them to our advantage? Yes.

All of us, at some point during our lives, have felt inferior to everyone else. We must have felt we are not good enough, not pretty enough or not smart enough. Usually these comments are not based on facts, but we continue to feel we are inferior. Fortunately, there are a number of simple steps we can take to get rid of inferiority complex. The steps can be categorized into three groups relating to confronting feelings, changing our thoughts and making positive steps

CONFRONTING FEELINGS

Identify the source of your inferiority complex. Inferiority complexes can be learned in childhood or formed in adulthood. The former is caused by neglect, overly critical or shaming parents, bullying by peers, exposure to negative messages in media and not experiencing positive social experiences. On the other hand, the adult inferiority complex is formed when you feel that you are not able to accomplish things you set out to do, or when you feel harassed by your family, partner or coworkers. Both types of inferiority vary in severity and are associated with low self-esteem and results in making unfavorable comparison of oneself with others.

Look out for the signs of an inferiority complex. At times your behavior is a result of your inferiority complex and you may not be aware of it. Inferiority complexes certainly affect how a person thinks and acts.

Nowadays, there is a lot of discussion about the importance of counseling and people are thinking about consulting a counselor. It is possible that one day you feel really low and want to speak to someone as soon as possible.  The very next day you feel OK and the thought of consulting a counsellor goes away. But the issues that made you feel low are still there and you inevitably feel worse again in a few days time.

What stopped you from making an appointment?  Apprehension about seeing a counsellor for the first time is common.  It can also be hard for anybody to accept that might need help.  Asking for help can make the problem seem more real and it is not easy to pretend it’s all OK. People who resolve this dilemma and seek counseling find it extremely helpful and effective and that it is the right thing for them. Attending a counseling session helps you find out more about how counseling works and the counselor can help you decide if counseling would be useful for your particular situation.

Listed below are possible signs that would help further in deciding if you need counseling or not:

• Uncontrollable sadness, anger or hopelessness.
• Eating or sleeping more or less than usual
• Withdrawing from family and friends
• Doubts about whether life is worth living,

There is a lot of talk about counseling nowadays. Some of you may know what counseling is and may have taken some counseling sessions from a counseling psychologist. If you do not know what counseling is or have not had counselling before you would have a number of questions about what it involves and whether it would help. If you are considering attending a counseling session you may feel uncertain about committing your time and money to see a counsellor. Hopefully this article can begin to answer some of your questions.

Counseling is a wonderful twentieth-century invention. We live in a complex, busy and ever changing world. In this world, there are many different types of experiences that are difficult for people to cope with. Most of the time, we get on with life, but sometimes we are stopped in our tracks by an event or situation that we do not, at that moment, have the resources to sort out. Usually, we find ways of dealing with such problems by talking to family members, friends, neighbors, or our family doctor. But occasionally their advice is not sufficient, or we are too embarrassed or ashamed to tell them what is bothering us, or we just don’t have an appropriate person to turn to. Counseling is a really useful option at these moments and at this hour.

What is counseling?

The client seeks such a relationship when they encounter a ‘problem in living’ that they have not been able to resolve through their everyday resources.

Most people often struggle with understanding the difference between Clinical psychology, Counselling psychology and Psychiatry. The three areas of study share in common many functions, but they differ in origin, theory and career paths. The differences between the first two can be noted by observing the roots of the two words: The term “clinical” is derived from the Greek word “kline,” which means bed, which may reference clinical treatment provided at a patient’s bedside. The term “counseling” is derived from the Latin word “consulere,” which means to advise or consul. Psychiatry refers to a field of medicine focused on the study, prevention and treatment of mental disorders in humans. Additional details about the differences are presented below

Clinical Psychologists

Clinical psychologists tend to work more with serious mental illness. The work of a clinical psychologist often overlaps with that of a psychiatrist. After World War II, clinical psychologists began to treat soldiers returning from war for issues such as post-traumatic stress disorder – work that would previously have been reserved for a psychiatrist. Clinical psychologists today focus on a variety of serious mental illnesses, including bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and major depressive disorders, among others.

In terms of the theories that underlay their work, clinical psychologists focus on psychoanalytical and behavioral persuasions when treating their clients; their training tends to emphasize psychopathology. Clinical psychologists are often employed in more clinical “bedside” settings such as hospitals and medical schools,