It is well said that, “An ear that listens can be medicine for a heart that gets hurt”. Talking to a person who is supportive always makes you feel better. That is why we make pals with people with the same perceptive. Those who can understand us are all what we need. When we can voice our feelings and worries to other people, it can be very healing. It feels good to be listened to and to know that someone is caring about you.
But many a times we feel the need to talk to someone outside our family/friends circle or the help you need could not be found from the people around you. In such times you need the guidance of an expert and this is where a counselor would be helpful to cater your emotional needs. A counselor provides you with an extra support and with an outsider perspective. It is only through a well-trained and experienced therapist or a psychological counselor you can get your emotional balance in a scientific way.
Why does talking to a counselor make a difference?
There’s a lot of difference in talking with your family/friends and talking to a counselor. Talking to friends or family may sometimes give out results that are biased, whereas talking to a counselor is different. Counselors are professionally trained listeners who can help you get to the root of your problems, overcome emotional needs and make positive changes in your life. Counseling is a scientifically proven process that teaches you how your mind works. It helps you navigate your feelings, build better behavior, and relate to your thoughts differently so you can live the life you want. Counseling gives you the apparatus for transforming your life. It helps you in relating better to others, building the life you want for yourself and coping with the negativity that is lashed at you so that you can handle your emotional needs yourself.
According to a report an estimated 350 million people in the world are affected with some or the other form of depression. It is never wrong to talk to someone about your emotions. Chances are you even know others in the same boat. All your emotional needs are catered when you talk to a right counselor. One may have the opinion that talking to your counselor is a time consuming and challenging process. Indeed it is.
Counseling is the process where all the uncomfortable emotions and thoughts arise as part of the treatment, yet providing long lasting benefits.
A counselor is someone who you can trust—someone you feel comfortable talking to about difficult subjects and intimate secrets, someone who will be a partner in your recovery. A counselor is the one who makes you feel cared for and has the hands-on experience to help you make changes for the better in your life. A good counselor takes the role whatever necessary from supporting you as a friend to guiding you as a father for catering your emotional needs.
Tips to Strike a balance
Meeting one’s emotional needs is all what the counselor helps us in achieving. The trick is to talk about the feelings outward. There’s a way in which we need to express our feelings out in any relationship in a non-confrontational manner. So here are some foolproof tips that your counselor would give you to cater your emotional needs. Blasting someone is never an option and is not empathetic. When you want to convey something to someone, do it in a loving and constructive manner. It helps you avoid a coming argument.
When you don’t like a behavior in your partner that is affecting your relationship, deliver it without opinions. Discuss it instead of pointing out the flaws.
Never belittle any person
- Asking out anything directly will greatly improve your chances of getting it. So instead of asking to read your mind, ask the people directly what do you need.
- Never stockpile your emotions or feelings. Stockpiling only causes you mental illness which eats you up from inside.
- Always be realistic in your expectations.
- Value your relations. Letting a person know that your life is better because of the presence of the person is very motivational.
How is it viewed in Society?
As much as counseling helps you in many ways possible, there are misconceptions that revolve around people who go to counseling. Whenever we hear someone saying that they are seeing a counselor we feel as if we are talking to a mentally ill-person and that thought changes to demeanor and discomfort. Lack of awareness and basic ignorance
makes people live in the darkness.
It is because of the taboo or stigma being attached to it. Unfortunately, there’s a lot of negative stigma being attached to mental health and persons with it are portrayed in a negative fashion. But we can’t afford to ignore mental health. It can have a very profound influence on physical health. If mental health is ignored, it leads to complications that cannot be comprehended. But luckily, we do now have people who have overcome mental health problems, talking about them and assuring people that it’s okay to be not mentally healthy and there will always be some ways.
Previously, some of the celebrities who couldn’t tolerate or share their emotional problems have committed suicides too. But these days, even famous celebrities are also talking about it and how they suffered and had overcome them. We are slowly coming out of that taboo. Any person’s emotional need is centered on basic feelings of love, fear, anger, sorrow, anxiety, frustration and depression which involve understanding, empathy and support of the people around us. Talking to a counselor who understands these feelings would help you cater them in the most possible and positive way.
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