Being emotional beings, we have all kinds of emotions like affection, attraction, love, and lust. What happens if a person continues to eat for hours together even after getting satiated? What if he continues this habit? Well, there comes digestive problems, obesity, and heart problems, etc., etc., you know the list, right? In the same way, we have the desires towards sexual pleasures, which are usually satisfied after a certain point. Just like after intimate intercourse with the spouse. But if you keep on feeding the same thoughts to your brain, just imagine what happens!! It could get addicted and that turns out to be the lust. Lust is nothing but an unquenched thirst towards desires, mostly sexual.

Men-Women

Due to the biological differences out there, men and women have different kinds of arousal factors. Men usually tend to get aroused by the visuals like watching a woman’s private parts or visualizing scenes with her or watching porn, while women get aroused by the emotional closeness, romance, praising their body, showing the passion, etc. On the contrary, every person has a right to say NO when they are not ready for such an act. Both men and women need to appreciate that everyone has their own feelings and hence need to regulate them accordingly. Of course, we are human beings and we are supposed to train ourselves such that there won’t be any misuse of our senses.

Overcoming Lust

First of all, acknowledge that having sexual desires is a very common thing for any being. Feeling bad about them could lead to unhealthy mental issues which could lead to making it even stronger. But what to do when there comes a threshold point of withholding our urges? This is a common problem in almost everyone that we come across. Let’s go through some important points that have to be kept in mind in order to overcome lust.

Avoid Attractions

Avoid unnecessary attractions that lure you into these thoughts of sex. Be away from those poisonous looks or unregulated activities that could ensnare you. Don’t let any thoughts or persons that could break the barriers of your personal fortress. Be strict to yourself by simply avoiding such situations.

Avoid watching porn

It is no wonder to know that there is a very little percentage of people in this world who don’t watch porn, especially those who are between 18 and 40. Watching porn has been a common thing these days, as this would actually rationalize our thinking by manipulating it like “not cheating” their spouse or that potential someone. But, there’s a lot more to it. The more you watch it, the more you get addicted. And, it is because of the increase in these viewers this dark industry is gaining high profits, leading to human trafficking, especially girl children.

Unbeknownst, porn watchers are harming society, as well as themselves by getting addicted to porn. Yes, of course. Watching porn hampers your functioning in real sex, thus distancing to your real pleasures!!!

Engage Yourselves

It is said that “When our minds and hearts are occupied in the right place, sexual lust has little room to operate.” Engage yourself in other activities like focusing on a hobby or playing memorizing games etc., to divert your attention from unnecessary things. Plan your career ahead to avoid any mean attractions spoil you and encourage yourself by reminding continually about it.

Imagine the consequences

If you can imagine the consequences of an extramarital affair or that uncontrollable lust, and if you try to imagine what happens next, that would eventually stop you from going further. The likely resultant consequences can be like getting into multiple affairs, having scattered family, devastated family members, kids abandoned and hating you to the core and finally moral degradation. If you are single, it could happen that this would be a big blow to your family and it would also affect your family life after you get married.

Know the science of Lust

If we can understand what happens to our brain when we think of sex more and more, we can regulate it in that way. The happy hormones and satisfactory hormones like oxytocin and serotonin get released in our brain making us have it more. Interestingly, these hormones can also be made to release when you do some activities such as sporting, hiking, dancing, enjoying good food, etc.

The front part of our brain is called the pre-frontal cortex, which helps us to analyze the situations and think rationally. But, lust clouds the pre-frontal cortex of your brain resulting in lowering your rational thinking.

We, human beings are the typical ones that trigger ourselves with something and beat ourselves for getting triggered. Oh come on, it’s a body that functions on hormones!! What can be done when you tend to trigger them and blame them back for their response? As we have hunger, sleep, and thirst, we have the urge to seek pleasures.

Emotional Needs

The need for expression, love, comfort, and warmth comes from the time of our birth. As an infant that cuddle and warm hug, that mom gave makes you feel secure. As a child, we experience the warmth in love in a sweet way and while growing up it differs from stage to stage. But at every stage, the release of oxytocin makes us happy, which we may find in different activities as we experience fun and pleasure. It is said that the same hormone is released when men and women experience orgasm. Hence, these are all nothing but the action of hormones, we undergo.

Married Ones

Most people don’t set out to cheat on their spouses. It all starts with small temptations of “just this” and “it’s okay as most people do” and you think “I know how and when to control myself” etc., etc. But this could slowly turn out into a huge problem, which can completely engulf your future while leading to character assassination. You might think that you could easily escape saying “he/she meant nothing to me”. But, it doesn’t work that way!!

Every married couple needs to talk openly about their sexual needs and should also encourage their spouse to do so. When inhibitions take their place in such discussions and when desires remain unfulfilled, that could result in unquenched lust. But, such an unquenched lust is the reason for extramarital relationships. Identifying and fulfilling the sexual needs of men and women and to see how they can be met within the context of marriage, is a must in a marital relationship. If you are unable to communicate, or if you feel that your marriage is going into trouble, it is highly recommended to seek the help of a professional marital counselor.

Are you having a troubled marriage or a sexless marriage? Are your marital issues bothering you? Talk to a therapist right now. You can book an appointment or make an instant call to find out better solutions for your burning problems. All the best!!


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