It is now a widely acclaimed fact that wives are not being really silent as they used to be decades ago. Times have changed a lot while laws have empowered them. Many unprecedented laws were formed in recent decades to protect the women as a shield from the harassments of their husbands and in-laws as there were many cases pre-dominant in then existed the society. But later on, those laws are being used to file cases on benign families and as a tool to harass their husbands, only to take revenge on husbands for some other issues.

But, why are these butter-hearted emotional beings that are very well known for their soft nature are turning into hard-to-digest individuals in society? Why are many husbands not coming out to speak on such issues until it’s time to blow up? Psychology says that there are many reasons why wives are being so irrational and idiotic in some cases, that they are finally crashing down their homes and spoiling their lives too.

Reasons can be Many

Depending upon an individual, there can be numerous factors that might lead to such determinations in the mind of a wife. These reasons are sometimes evident and many-a-times remain unknown to the husband. However, it is necessary that awareness regarding Marital Counseling should be wide-spread to prevent further damage as it is highly helpful to resolve the unresolved issues between a man and wife.

Well, let’s just go through the probable reasons that might trigger the harsh corners of a woman’s heart.


There could be many high expectations depending upon the way you were introduced to her or the way you tried to impress her. While it is a common thing that men create hype that they should be projected as a hero, but there comes much more responsibility to these superheroes, while fulfilling the expectations laid on them.

Unrealistic Expectations

“Honey!! I’m expecting a diamond necklace from you, on this anniversary. I know you would gift that, won’t you?”, “When are we going to Singapore trip that you promised me on our first night?” or “Oh, come on dear, I thought that you could easily do 100 push-ups. Can’t you?” these are the words which are generally heard from the wives who have a way more high expectations for their averagely doing husbands. Though they can sometimes understand from the things going around, they won’t easily give up as you men promised to be their superheroes!!!

Passive Aggression

Passive aggression is the aggression that is shown indirectly rather than directly. Didn’t get? Well, you might have observed your wife saying, “Yeah, you should really buy that for your mom/sis” in a sarcastic way, leaving you puzzled whether you should go ahead or not. Or you might have heard “I’m having a headache, so, not today” while she is actually disinterested. And, I can bet you’ve encountered a word called “nothing” when there’s a lot that’s bothering her and that she wants you to know.

So, passive aggression includes sarcasm, blaming others, playing the victim card, hiding the anger and behaving normally, feigning compliance, avoiding direct or clear communication, obstructionism, etc. etc., the list can be, long. So, those thoughts that must be driving her crazy enough to spit the shit out can make her do such things, eventually.

Displacement of Anger

There are many chances that some ladies usually seek the indirect way of taking revenge on her husband with sarcastic comments when they are fed-up with their in-laws. Mostly, when the issues between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, are not resolved properly, they could emerge into something like this. For example, she might put some extra amount of salt in your bowl or maybe some excess sugar into your cup of coffee and say that she doesn’t know for all these 15 years of marriage that you are actually habituated to eat extra salt/sugar than normal unless her mother-in-law told her yesterday. Sounds sarcastic, right? But just imagine what might have triggered her to do that!!

Emotional & Physical Status

The emotional and physical relationship between couples should be seamlessly integrated. In case, they are having issues in handling each other emotionally or if they are not having good physical intimacy, it’s a common way for women to express their dissatisfaction towards life. Such circumstances where emotional or physical needs or both are not met, the expression of such imbalances is instigated in an indirect way and leads to the harassment of their spouses.

Dowry issues

In some countries like India, where there is still the existence of taking dowry from the bride’s parents to marry her, it may provoke her considering him to be her slave whom she bought. This may slowly turn down whatever good opinion she used to have on him. This is one of the reasons why taking dowry is considered a crime and yet practiced, unfortunately.


Some of them might also be facing mental health issues and hence could be behaving so. There might be some bad past that could be haunting her which she is not aware of, like having experiences of emotional abuse in childhood, maltreatment, sexual abuse, etc. that might have affected here severely to the core. When women face such incidents, it is possible that they affect her mental health deeply because of which she might face some mental health issues like depression, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and personality disorders, etc. The desires or fears that have affected her severely in the past can lead to many adult psychological disorders.

PsychoSocial History

Having a history of psychotic problems like borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, postpartum disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, facing severe stress, anxiety disorders, schizophrenia, addiction, etc. could make her act weird in some situations. There could be many symptoms like fatigue, irritability, sleep problems, depression, loneliness, and loss of interest that might lead to such mental problems. Depending upon her psychosocial history, she could face suicidal ideations too. So, it is highly recommended that such women need to be taken to a mental health therapist.

So, there’s a lot of mental health history behind this psychosocial drama that women create sometimes. But yeah, not all the women are the same as not all the men do!! Unbeknownst, human beings tend to behave in a certain way where the roots of those reasons would exist in the past. It is the duty of a psychologist to counsel the person out of those problems and to help lead a happy life.

Marital Counseling

When the differences and conflicts between couples become so tough to handle, it is much better to take the help of an expert, who can counsel you better than a normal family member or a close friend. A marriage counselor can make you realize your thinking pattern, the way how a problem should be dealt with, depending upon the personalities you handle and will show how capable you are to bring a positive change in your marital life. Marital counseling offers you the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences and solve problems in a healthier way. Couples counseling includes benefits such as improved communication, revitalized emotional connections and re-negotiating commitments. Online marital counseling helps you to have an open talk with your counselor at your convenience. Book an appointment, today.

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