Nowadays, there is a lot of discussion about the importance of counseling and people are thinking about consulting a counselor. It is possible that one day you feel really low and want to speak to someone as soon as possible. The very next day you feel OK and the thought of consulting a counsellor goes away. But the issues that made you feel low are still there and you inevitably feel worse again in a few days time.
What stopped you from making an appointment? Apprehension about seeing a counsellor for the first time is common. It can also be hard for anybody to accept that might need help. Asking for help can make the problem seem more real and it is not easy to pretend it’s all OK. People who resolve this dilemma and seek counseling find it extremely helpful and effective and that it is the right thing for them. Attending a counseling session helps you find out more about how counseling works and the counselor can help you decide if counseling would be useful for your particular situation.
Listed below are possible signs that would help further in deciding if you need counseling or not:
- Uncontrollable sadness, anger or hopelessness.
- Eating or sleeping more or less than usual
- Withdrawing from family and friends
- Doubts about whether life is worth living, thoughts of death and suicide
- Talking to friends, exercise, self-help techniques do not make a difference
- Friend or family tired of listening to you and start to avoid you
- Friends or family members are tired of listening to you and they start moving away from you
- Overuse or abuse of something (alcohol, tobacco, drugs, watching pornography) or someone (friends or family members)
- People have noticed changes in you and suggest that you need help
- Feel disconnected from job, changes in concentration and attention, negative feedback from significant others
- Relationships getting strained and having trouble communicating feelings
- Not enjoying things once loved, sudden loss of interest in doing things and become indifferent
- Need help to navigate big changes in life (breakups, job changes, deaths in family etc)
- Resorting to unhealthy behavior on social media (too many selfies, seeking help).
- Getting sick though doctors say you are fine
- Prefer isolation and make an effort to ensure you are alone and disconnected.
Prof. K. Madhu
Wellness Hub, Visakhapatnam
I have completed 30 years of teaching and research in psychology at the Department of Psychology and Parapsychology, Andhra University, Visakhapatnam, India.