Setbacks are inevitable in life. We should be prepared to set them aside and use them to our advantage. Highly successful people, who in fact, experience the most setbacks, have acquired this knack of setting aside setbacks in order to achieve their success. Unfortunately, nobody talks much about their setbacks and struggles. We are taught to admire successful for their successes and we are left to compare ourselves with their achievements. This in turn makes it hard for us to validate our mistakes and problems and we start questioning our abilities.
This pattern of thinking has made the world be afraid of setbacks. Even from a young age we have been taught that being wrong and making mistakes are bad. Our mind gets conditioned to use these memories to provoke negative emotions like fear and anxiety which might make us repeat the same errors today. Award winning author J.K. Rowling advocates that we should learn to embrace setbacks and failures. She states that “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all–in which case, you fail by default.” If we live so carefully to avoid failure, we’re also never teaching ourselves how to manage it effectively when we experience it.
The question now is “Can we train ourselves to set aside the setbacks and use them to our advantage? Yes.